What Happens When Your Needs Change in a Relationship?

What Happens When Your Needs Change in a Relationship?

When you were young and your relationship was new, your needs were relatively simple. The things that excited you about your partner were chemistry and the blissful feeling of reciprocity – you were in love and you were loved in return. It was intoxicating. You were...
As Long As You Don’t Know Him, He Can Be Perfect

As Long As You Don’t Know Him, He Can Be Perfect

You want him. You love him. He’s broken but you can fix him. You know you’re everything he needs. Not that you actually know that much about him. He’s there and then gone like a beautiful idea or taste. And every time you see him, you want him even more. He is your...
How Great Parents Create Kids’ Relationship Challenges

How Great Parents Create Kids’ Relationship Challenges

How were you parented? If you say “well,” to me that means your parents provided affirmation, recognition, validation and support. There was relative safety and predictability in your home life. But now the difference between your parents’ unconditional love and...
Breakup Joins Grief with Withdrawal: Here’s How To Move Beyond

Breakup Joins Grief with Withdrawal: Here’s How To Move Beyond

A relationship can be a living, breathing entity that you and your partner co-create. A relationship can also be a literal chemical addiction. So, a breakup joins two of life’s most challenging experiences: paralyzing grief and the overwhelming physical and emotional...
Investing in Feeling Bad Keeps You From Feeling Good

Investing in Feeling Bad Keeps You From Feeling Good

Are you interested in someone? Is he or she interested in you? Maybe—but it’s a lot easier to assume not, because if you lower your expectations, there’s much less far to fall. This tendency to manage expectations and keep them low is meant to be protective. The...