10 Sources of Low Self-Esteem

10 Sources of Low Self-Esteem

Last week I wrote about the ways that low self-esteem manifests in women’s relationships. This week I will do a very brief overview of the infinite places from which low self-esteem can originate  – how your history and primary caregiver relationships shaped your...
How (and Why!) to Love Your False Self

How (and Why!) to Love Your False Self

With groups, at work, with your partner, with your family, and alone you might feel like you are different people. At times you may even feel like a fraud. Somehow you think you’re supposed to know more, be different, have some sort of tangible or social skill set...
How To Decide Whether to Stay or Leave

How To Decide Whether to Stay or Leave

It’s both noble and self-sacrificing to stay in a relationship because leaving would crush your partner. You’re loyal to the core, but also profoundly dissatisfied. Now your struggle is to balance the vow you made to your partner to stay in the relationship against...
Feeling Guilty After Breakup? Instead, Try Joy

Feeling Guilty After Breakup? Instead, Try Joy

You were deeply unhappy in your relationship, but now you’re out. You craved something different. You craved peace, serenity, even joy, and now you have the opportunity for it. But in those moments of post-breakup relief, you feel guilty: you know your ex is...
Why Feeling Deserving Helps You Achieve Good Things

Why Feeling Deserving Helps You Achieve Good Things

You join a gym but can’t stop smoking. You finally pull free from a destructive relationship but are binging on junk food. You stop wasting time on mindless TV, but then compulsively check Facebook. Does it seem like pushing forward in one area of your life must be...