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Let Hope and Time Guide You Through Depression
If depression becomes your familiar state, it can be scary to wade into the uncharted territory of feeling better.
Revisiting trauma in the wake of a tumultuous relationship
When a stormy relationship ends, you can think you’re ok, you ‘re feeling stable, but then you plunge right back into confusion, disgust, and fear all over again.
What It Really Means to Be ‘Friends With Benefits’
Are you really FWBs or is one’s convenience at the other’s emotional expense?
The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 9: Hope
After breakup, you haven’t lost all hope, just your access to it.
The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 8: Anger
After breakup, there are primal forms and later more developed forms of anger.
9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 7: Initial Acceptance
Initial acceptance is a stage in breakup you will likely visit more than once.
The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 6: Relapse
Warning: you may need to go through the process of reconciling and breaking up many times before the breakup sticks.
9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 5: Internal Bargaining
The if onlies can be a repetitive, endless, excruciating loop of familiar scenarios where your imaginary actions result in much happier outcomes.
9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 4: External Bargaining
Trying to fix a broken relationship all by yourself is a losing proposition. Somewhere within you, you know that. You’re just not ready to face it yet.
The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 3: Desperate for Answers
Once you start to get your mind around the reality of the loss, the intensity of your need to understand how, when, and why it happened, can become all-consuming.
The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup: No. 2 – Denial
This must be a stage, it’s temporary, you think. No matter how remote the possibility, you’re continuing to carry on as if you’re still in a viable relationship, because then it hasn’t ended.
The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup, #1: Shock
Shock is a primal response to a sophisticated loss.
Single? How To Feel Okay On New Year’s Eve
You survived Christmas as a single person, but now it’s time to face New Year’s Eve. Along with Valentines Day, it’s one of the hardest days of the year to be single: it can feel as if everyone has someone to kiss at midnight except you. It doesn’t help that friends...
Would Your Life Be Better If You Were Thin?
The struggle to feel good about yourself as a person while struggling to feel that you look good is exhausting.
Holiday Stress? Don’t Be Ashamed
This post is for everyone whose holidays take on elusive but tensely disproportionate meaning—everyone who feels anxious, expectant, shameful, even fearful.
How to Release Self-Beliefs That Create Great Shame
There may be secrets you keep—not literal or intentional secrets, but negative feelings and beliefs about yourself that have grown bigger and uglier over time. Along with these secrets comes great shame. What shameful beliefs do you hold about yourself? Where did they originate from?
What Happens When Your Needs Change in a Relationship?
As both you and the relationship get older, with your initial, simple set of needs already met by your partner, a new more sophisticated set naturally sprouts up.
As Long As You Don’t Know Him, He Can Be Perfect
You want him. You love him. He’s broken but you can fix him. You know you’re everything he needs. Not that you actually know that much about him…
How Great Parents Create Kids’ Relationship Challenges
Who do you understand yourself to be? What do you feel is your worth? If you had good parents, it can be difficult to bridge the confusion between what you feel at home and what you experience outside in the world.
Catch #breakupbook2015 on BYU Radio!
Tues, Nov 18th at 5:15PM, on Sirius XM channel 143 as well as through their live stream at byuradio.org, I will be making my first radio “appearance” ever.
Are Parents or Partner Threatened by Your Joy?
Emotionally as well as physically, there can be too much of a good thing. But is your partner meeting your unbridled excitement with a useful second opinion, or is he or she threatened to the point of invalidating your experience?
Losing Yourself in a Relationship That Can’t Give Back?
When you are in love with a friend who can’t reciprocate your feelings, it can be difficult to navigate the relationship without losing yourself.
Create Relationship Balance by Recognizing Your Own Power
Often people who feel powerless in turn act in a demanding, overwhelming, power-driven way to compensate for their perceived powerlessness. As a result, they underestimate their ability to affect others and instead overcorrect, behaving in aggressive or disproportionately intense ways that have far more negative impact on their partners and their relationships.
After Breakup, This Is Your Process
Respect your process: Only by coming to conclusions yourself can these conclusions become honest actions.
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Nearly every Red state is bringing anyone who has survived something as horrific as rape to their knees in despair.
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Why Donald J. Trump is Unfit to be President
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The psychiatric problems we saw in 2017 are only getting worse
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