Book 1: You Are Here

This book is written the way our work would unfold if I were your psychotherapist. I am sitting with you in the emotional muck. When you’re ready, I’ll help you find your way through it. For a start, however, we will just sit together in this muck, figuring out where you are. That’s as it should be. Not only have I worked through excruciating breakups with my patients during 25+ years of practice as a clinical psychologist, I have also worked through my own life-altering breakups. This process is organized into three books, allowing you to progress at your own pace. Book 1 helps you to name, understand, and identify the pieces of yourself that have shattered and scattered in the wake of your loss. In Book 2 (coming soon), we’ll explore your history including the patterns and expectations you brought into the relationship and where they came from. We will also look at how your early experiences have informed and shaped your perceptions of yourself and your partner in your relationship. You will be able to use the tools you learn in books 1 and 2 as you begin to restore your sense of self and self-worth. Book 3 (manuscript in preparation) will guide you through the transition from paralyzing anger to a more energizing and motivating anger. Book 3 will also help you re-access feelings of hope so that you feel more present in the world and in your own skin, which is the only place you can be, anyway.

Knowledge is power and self-knowledge is the ultimate power.